The Psychology of Love, Control, and Trust: Why We Mistake Expectations for Cheating
Whenever we fall in love with someone, a strange kind of fear often takes root inside us—the fear of losing them, or the fear that they might cheat on us. We frequently judge a person's loyalty solely based on their small, everyday actions. We tend to think that they belong entirely to us, and that they should act precisely the way we want them to. However, reality doesn't work that way at all. Let us understand this through a simple story. Once upon a time, there was a father who had a young child. The father often wished to shape his child into a good human being and keep him under his strict control. The child was simply doing the normal things that any child does. Now, if an ordinary father looks at that child without any desire to control him, the child's behavior will seem completely normal. But a father who has already made up his mind beforehand that he must keep his child under tight control will start feeling annoyed even by the child's slight outbursts or cry...